Allah the Most High says, “Start everything with A’uzubillahi minash-shaytanir rajim, Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim [I seek refuge in Allah from Satan, the outcast. In the name of Allah, The One Who Acts with Mercy, The Source of Mercy].” With this, He is showing you the teamwork: A’uzubillahi minash-shaytanir rajim, Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim. So what is your team? Allah and you and others in your team. So you have a connection. And then Allah has assigned you teammates you will work with. Mainly this is your husband or your wife or your children or your neighbor or your friend or somebody in your tariqa [path]/church.
Let us get to husband and wife situation. We like to see husband and wife as teams. We have some good teams. A good husband is the one who respects his wife and helps her to grow in the direction that she wants to grow. He does not hinder. As long as everything is okay with Allah, then the husband should help the wife to grow. If you are not growing, then you are stale. You get stale. Stagnant. And then your brain stops working, your brain will be limited to only 500 words a day. And the wife has to be the same. She has to be supporting the husband in the direction that he wants to go. The problem happens when this does not happen and everybody is trying to go in different directions. You can still be a team in different directions if you are part of his/her growth in that direction too, then you have not broken the tie. But if the husband goes this way and the wife does not get involved in what he is doing, and the wife goes this way and the husband does not get involved in what she is doing, then there is a break. Now, we do not want this to happen.
A husband and a wife should back each other, support each other whatever each other wants to do. This is the world of “do’s”, not “don’t do’s”. Some conservative or fundamentalist or limited knowledge religious people, they work on “don’ts”. They stay on “don’ts”. We do not. We stay on “do’s”, we stress the “do’s”. Do, do, do, do, do. In doing, you learn Allah. Not doing, you learn nothing.
A team is people getting together and doing something with Allah so they can learn Allah and have a better life.