Relationship without expectations

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I am not an expert on relationships or business, so do not ask me more questions about this but I can only tell you my experiences and that is what I did and that is what I would do.

My intention is
to bring people and not to lose anybody,
to help people and not to hurt them,
to love them and not to hate them,
to help them as much as I can
without expecting anything in return.

No expectations

That is the other thing. Do not want anything in return. The only thing that is going to return is maybe you are going to get hurt, but it is okay. Because I am not doing it for them, this is what is expected of them, that is their business. It is between them and God. Mine is between me and Allah and this is what I want to do. No matter how much I get hurt, I still keep on going because I am doing it for Allah.

If you get hurt, it means that Allah has accepted your good deed. What is the logic behind that?

To be continued…

Qur’an Reference

Tell them, “There is no doubt that my salat, the protocol of my actions, my living and my dying are all dedicated to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. (Al An’am:162)

This is an edited excerpt of a Sohbet given on May 10, 2008 by Murshid Shaykh Taner Vargonen Ansari and published here on March 27, 2023. The translation of the Qur’an verses are also from Murshid Shaykh Taner Vargonen Ansari.

Did you read the other parts of this Sohbet about Relationship, or would you like to read them again?
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Problems and Solutions


Relationship with Kids

Relationship with The Qur’an


Ramadan 1444

Qur’anic verses

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